So my friend wanted to turn his haunter into a gengar, so I helped him with the trade, and when his gengar evolved and we tried trading back gengar completely rejected my friend for trading him in the first place. Now I have an extremely depressed gengar haunting my home. I don’t mind caring for him, it’s just that I don’t know how to connect with him. Whenever his original trainer comes over he basically becomes a poltergeist and knocks things over and causes destruction. What can I do

You may wish to mediate between your friend and his gengar. It seems that the gengar may be going through emotional turmoil because he believes he’s been betrayed by his former trainer (for lack of a way of putting that without sounding dramatic), so it’s extremely important that you help your friend to convince his gengar that he didn’t abandon him. Perhaps explaining to this gengar that it was to help him evolve will do, but if you’ve already done that, a live demonstration via a battle may allow this gengar to understand.

More than that, remind your friend’s gengar of the bond he shared with his trainer. This may be a painful step, so never do it without the trainer present and supporting you. Have your friend bring some of gengar’s favorite things along, and have him apologize and use those things as a peace offering.

It will take some time and a considerable amount of effort, but the main goal is essentially to repair the relationship between your friend and his gengar. In order to do that, remember that you should be the bridge for communication. Create a comfortable space and do your best to keep everyone calm and in conversation with one another.

Best of luck, anonymous!