so i have feelings for my best friend, and i often have romantic dreams about him… well my musharna has been taking my dreams and trying to broadcast them to him! i manage to stop her before he sees visions of us kissing, but this is so embarrassing. i know she means well and wants him to know how i feel so i can be happy, but how can i get her to understand i need to take this at my own pace?

Communication is key here, anonymous. It’s important to set boundaries with your musharna and make it clear that although you appreciate your help, you don’t feel comfortable with her sharing your most intimate thoughts with another person. It may help to visualize with the utmost clarity what you think would happen if your best friend were to see these visions so she can see your viewpoint in terms she understands.

Additionally, consider confiding in your musharna more often. She may be attempting to make herself “useful” by connecting you to your best friend, but if you give her another purpose, such as talking to her about your feelings whenever you can, she may feel less inclined to act on her own in order to make you happy.

Best of luck, anonymous!